hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak
- socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it
- climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house
- crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell
- the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall
- do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer
Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me.
If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door.
When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN.
Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.
KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW.
Hope this helped.some more generic #abusetips by rae
observe your abuser’s patterns so you can learn how to avoid them when they’re prone to rampages/being drunk or violent, etc.
if you have siblings and can safely do so, talk to them. it’s easier to deal with this stuff together.
carry around something small (pocket knife, etc) that you can use to defend yourself in a pinch.
avoid alone time with your abuser AT ALL COSTS.
password your phone, password your laptop, clear your search history, don’t leave anything for someone to get angry at
become familiar with your surroundings (neighborhood/woods/city/whatever) in case you need to run away. look for motels within walking distance and memorize their locations
if your parents don’t make you food or there isn’t much in the house, pasta and cheese is amazing. cook some pasta (macaroni or really any other kind), put some cheese on top (again, any kind) and microwave that bitch for :45 and you have yourself a surprisingly filling meal with only 2 flexible ingredients. if you’re tired of/don’t have cheese, ragu/tomato sauce is great too. i could alternate those 2 meals and live on it for weeks honestly
document EVERYTHING, as it happens. abusers are great at twisting your memories and making you think you’re exaggerating in your mind. write down abusive things that are said or done to you (or take pictures) so you can use them to reassure yourself later that the abuse isn’t in your head. don’t do this if you don’t have a secure place to keep the proof.
and my favorite
have a small bag (walmart bag or equivalent size) that has a few days worth of essentials ready to grab and go! fit some stuff like
– money ($20 ish, more if you can)
– a water bottle or 2
– granola bars
– light jacket
– change of clothes
– flashlight
– tampons, hand sanitizer (amazing for cleaning w no water)…and whatever else you need and can fit into a small bag, and keep it under your bed or in an easy grabbing location. i call it the Shit Hits The Fan bag, for if you ever need to just book it outta there asap.
if you can store one in your home somewhere and one outside (in a weather-resistant location like a shed or in a tree) it’s even better.
Important to my fellow survivors
I wish I saw this earlier in my life….
Water bottle by/under the bed at night so you don’t have too move much. Be sure to fill it when going about your bedtime routine so the noise you make doesn’t sound out of place.
If you need some noise to listen too when trying to sleep and you have an mp3/cd player or any of that make sure you have bud headphones and the music is on super low. Just enough for you to hear it but still able to hear their footsteps coming.
Keep the item under the sheets to mute the glow and not have anything visible.
If you can’t have the door locked ever then keep a few necklaces or something you can claim as decoration on the doorknob on the inside of your door so when they open it you can hear them chime and knock against the door as warning someone is entering.
It won’t buy you much time but that extra second can help you pull a sheet down just enough to hide things.
If your school has a during lunch book club where they serve snacks, join it.
It’s essentially free food and books themselves provide a nice escape from reality for a moment.
Don’t delete all your search history!
Leave certain things up or even search for topics that you can say for school or were just interesting but be sure to leave some time between the searches. Deleting everything will set up red flags to your abuser(s) and will not end well.
I am Terra 